The African Girls’ Leadership Group is cultivating a new generation of advocates

Together, these girls are tackling FGM and gender inequality in their communities.

“I’m willing to go out and speak. Usually I’m nervous when I speak, but you have all inspired me,” says Fatoumata, standing proudly before a room packed with peers, advocates and survivors.

“I know we as a group can make change when we go at it together.”

Fatoumata is a graduate of Sanctuary’s inaugural African Girls’ Leadership Group, a group that engages young African girls in advocating to end Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) in their communities.

Eight young women and teenage girls graduated during a ceremony last week, where Fatoumata and others spoke. All of the graduates have parents who immigrated from Africa, or were themselves born in Africa, with four different West African countries represented among the group.

Growing advocates from the community

The African Girls’ Leadership Group was founded by Sanctuary counselor Mariama Diallo, who was born in Guinea, West Africa. In Guinea, Mariama says, more than 93% of women undergo FGM.

In 2004, Mariama came to the United States, and began working at Sanctuary, where she did outreach among US-born girls in African communities in New York. “I was shocked to realize that FGM was happening here,” says Mariama.

Mariama has long been an advocate to end FGM in the US. But in recent years, as the children of her clients at Sanctuary grew up and learned about their mothers’ experiences, Mariama started to wonder how she could engage these bright young women in her advocacy.

After all, says Mariama, “the people who are most closely connected to an issue are the best to speak out against the issue – and this issue disproportionately impacts young African girls.”

Learning to make people listen

Over the course of three months, the girls gathered weekly to discuss their shared experiences of growing up in the US, but remaining closely tied to the traditions and culture of their or their parents’ home countries.

Everything was on the table, from the anxiety of awaiting college acceptance to the challenge of speaking to a respected and beloved male family member about why FGM is wrong.

Each week, guest speakers trained the girls in a new area of advocacy, including public speaking, using media, and legal aspects. “My favorite day was when we spoke with the Senior Trial Attorney from the Justice Department,” says Adama, age 16.

“I learned how to approach people about FGM effectively,” she adds. “You can’t immediately confront everyone with the brutal realities of FGM – you have to take different approaches to be the most effective and get people to listen.”

Carrying the message to the community

Aisha is 18, and about to graduate high school.

Despite her busy schedule, she found time to join the African Girls’ Leadership Group and was inspired to take action.

“When I was young, my mother wanted to ensure my sister and me never had to undergo FGM. She came to Sanctuary for help,” recounts Aisha.

“Today, even though most if the kids in my high school are from West Africa, I don’t think they are very educated about the issue of FGM. I’m planning to create a documentary that shares the stories of FGM survivors. FGM is such a traumatizing event, when someone speaks about it you can see it in their eyes. Words alone aren’t enough – I think video is a much more effective way to really show people what FGM is.”

Aisha is looking forward to attending Bryn Mawr next year, where she’ll study computer science. This summer, she’ll be working and getting ready for school – but she still wants to dedicate time to her advocacy.

“Being part of this group has really helped me to think outside the box about advocacy,” she says. “What keeps me going is knowing that this isn’t just for me, but could make a difference for someone else.”

Setting goals, making change

The African Girls’ Leadership Group doesn’t end with graduation. While some girls will be moving on to college, others are still in high school and are excited to push their agenda forward while growing the group to include other girls.

They’ve also created a list of goals for the future. The advocates hope to have a meeting with the New York City Mayor’s Office this summer, to talk about their idea for a city-wide ad campaign calling attention to FGM.

They want the opportunity to attend the UN Commission on the Status of Women in 2017, and are willing to participate in and speak at related events and panels.

They also want to do more outreach directly within their communities. The advocates think holding a free hair-braiding event at a local salon would be a great opportunity to reach mothers and families.

While braiding their daughters’ hair, the advocates could speak with the mothers about the dangers of FGM – and perhaps prevent yet another girl from undergoing the dangerous procedure.

“I’d like to see the group grow so we can inspire more girls, from all different places, to take part,” says Adama.

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Pei’s Story: “I want to build a world where our daughters and sons will feel safe.”

Pei uses her experience to create a world free from gender violence.

Pei came to Sanctuary in 2010, seeking legal services after escaping abuse. With the support of the Legal Center, and the help of dedicated pro bono attorneys, Pei obtained a five-year order of protection, sole custody of her daughter, and assistance obtaining immigration status.

Today, Pei has transformed her life. She holds a Masters Degree, a dream job, and is a committed survivor-advocate with Sanctuary’s Mentors Program.

How did Pei do it? This is Pei’s story, in her own words:

I am originally from Taiwan. I am a domestic violence survivor, and a client of Sanctuary for Families. The Director of Sanctuary’s Legal Center, Dorchen Leidholdt, and her legal team have been some of my biggest supporters since 2010.

I had never imagined myself as a victim of domestic violence until I was severely abused, mentally, and physically, by my ex-boyfriend who is the father of my child. After my child was born, I realized that I had to leave the abusive relationship in order to keep my daughter safe.

I moved into a domestic violence shelter on the day my daughter turned 6 months old, because I was afraid for our lives.

Since 2010, the team at Sanctuary for Families has been there for us every step of the way. The legal team helped me obtain my five year Order of Protection, which also includes my child, as well as sole custody and a visa to stay legally in the country with my family.

I was able to return to my school and I received a Master’s Degree in 2011. Today I work professionally as a partner of a technology company and an educator, while raising my family.

I am now a Sanctuary for Families Mentor and advocate for domestic violence survivors, because I want to help other victims and survivors to receive the support that they need to rebuild their lives, and become their own hero(ine)s.

I understand that gender based violence, domestic violence, and violence against transgender and LGBTQ communities are serious crimes, that I can help educate to eradicate. I do this because I want to build a world where our daughters and sons will feel safe.

Sanctuary could not have provided these services to Pei without the support of long-time Sanctuary pro bono partner Weil, Gotschal & Manges. Pei worked with a pro bono team from Weil for over two years. Of her experience working with Weil, Pei explains:

It was a completely life changing event to work with the team that had respected me like a client of their own, and not a victim who has no choice.

For as long as my case took to resolve, the team from Weil became part of the life that I was in, and gave me the support that helped me feel safe in hard times. The feeling went on and stayed with me long after the court case was over.

I have such a deep gratitude and warm feelings when I think of the team, for it reminds me of how far some people had gone out of their way to help me and my daughter, and how precious this life is — to have such an experience.

Pei is today a member of Sanctuary’s Mentors Program, which was established in 1995 to provide past clients the opportunity to become powerful advocates for ending gender violence. Pei shares her experience of being a Mentor:

My fellow Mentors serve as volunteer advocates for victims of teen dating violence, victims of violence in NYCHA housing, and others. We participate in marches, walks and marathon to raise awareness about gender based violence, and accompany clients to their court appearances.

We educate ourselves by attending conferences, workshops and meetings on domestic violence, where we also learn new skills to help other victims. We speak about our experiences to large or small groups of audiences in health centers and community centers – recently we gave a talk at the organization Non Traditional Employment for Woman (NEW-NYC), where we met other inspiring heroines.

I am grateful to get to know and share my life with a group of amazing domestic violence survivors who so bravely go out and touch people’s hearts. I enjoy learning their stories and I admire how them. I hold the time that I spend with other Mentors dearly, and it gives me time to breathe and to sit down and simply share my experience and emotions without the feeling of being judged.

The Mentors Program has done a lot for my life after the abuse, and helped me rebuild my life, my personality, and my self-esteem with a supportive network. It gives me a way to give back after all the help I received from Sanctuary, and to help others who are on his or her journey of recovery from an abusive and terrifying past.

Pei, along with Julia, another survivor-advocate from the Mentors Program, will be riding 40 miles in the TD Five Boro Bike Tour as part of Sanctuary for Families’ Bike Tour team. You can contribute to Pei and Julia’s ride and fundraising campaign. Find out how.

Hilda Sanchez: A volunteer, and a part of the team.

Hilda helps Sanctuary Clinical Admin staff stay organized.

It’s National Volunteer Recognition Week, and every day this week we’ll be highlighting a Sanctuary volunteer being honored at our Pillars of Change Volunteer Recognition event on May 5th. Learn more and register for Pillars of Change.

Hilda Sanchez has been volunteering with Sanctuary for Families for more than two years.

Hilda was initially connected to the organization through her friend and Sanctuary staff member, Sandra Cabal.

“I learned from Sandra about the services Sanctuary provides to support clients in times of crisis, and I was inspired to take action and get involved as a volunteer,” recounts Hilda.

Over the past two years, Hilda has dedicated her time to Sanctuary’s Clinical Administration team, where she spends up to twenty hours per week assisting with critical data entry work, scanning and filling client files, and a variety of other tasks as needed.

Hilda takes on her volunteering responsibility with pride and devotion. “Thanks to Hilda we have been able to become more organized,” says Sandra.

“Because she helps with the things that usually get pushed for later (i.e. filing, scanning, creating electronic files, archiving closed files, etc.), we are able to focus on deadlines and other work that requires our immediate attention.

“More than a volunteer Hilda has become part of our team and we feel pride when staff often comment of her dedication and tells us how lucky we are to have her around.”

Sandra’s feelings of pride and thankfulness for Hilda are very much mutual.

“It is an honor to work with my colleagues in Clinical Administration,” Hilda says.

We are so grateful to Hilda for her incredible service, and look forward to honoring her at Pillars of Change on May 5, 2016.

You can join us at Pillars of Change by registering now. We hope to see you there!

Kate Bieber Ogg: Volunteering to End Gender Violence

Kate educates her family and community about Sanctuary’s work.

It’s National Volunteer Recognition Week, and every day this week we’ll be highlighting a Sanctuary volunteer being honored at our Pillars of Change Volunteer Recognition event on May 5th. Learn more and register for Pillars of Change.

Kate Bieber Ogg has been involved as a Sanctuary volunteer on and off for nearly 10 years.

Kate first heard about Sanctuary in 2000 through her interest in issues surrounding gender violence and women’s rights. She began volunteering with other organizations tackling those issues during her college career, and officially began volunteering with Sanctuary in 2002 as a law student participating in the Courtroom Advocates Project.

“I believe in the importance of telling our community, and showing my children, that gender issues are crucial in today’s society,” says Kate. “Organizations like Sanctuary demonstrate that we will not turn a blind eye to the pervasive issues of gender violence.”

Over the years, Kate primarily volunteered as a ‘Holiday Helper’ during the holiday season, simultaneously contributing to the Adopt-a-Family Program and other various events. In 2014, she decided to increase her commitment to the organization and began volunteering two days a week within the Development Department.

Kate has provided tremendous help in organizing events, reaching out to current and prospective donors, doing research, and tracking and thanking supporters.

“I love hearing about the positive experiences of staff and clients alike, but I find it most rewarding to spread the word about Sanctuary’s work,” Kate says.

“Whenever I have the opportunity to speak to someone who has never heard of Sanctuary, and the conversation eventually turns into ongoing support in the form of a donation or volunteering, I know my work is meaningful.”

By giving her time as a volunteer, Kate has learned that the power of people to organizations like Sanctuary is critical.

We are so grateful to Kate for her incredible service, and look forward to honoring her at Pillars of Change on May 5, 2016.

You can join us at Pillars of Change by registering now. We hope to see you there!