Women’s History Month: Honoring Sharwline Nicholson

Sanctuary client Sharwline Nicholson’s landmark legal case paved the way for stronger protections for survivors and their children.

During Women’s History Month, Sanctuary for Families honors the women whose courage has transformed systems to recognize and respond to the needs of survivors.


Just over 20 years ago in New York City, a survivor could have their children taken away for “engaging” in domestic violence — a devastating practice that punished those it should have protected.

Refusing to accept this injustice, Sanctuary client Sharwline Nicholson spoke out, paving the way for stronger protections for survivors and their children.

Sharwline’s Story

In 1999, when Sharwline ended her relationship with the father of one of her two children, he responded with violence. Though he had never previously threatened or assaulted her, he punched her, kicked her, and broke her arm while their baby was asleep in the next room.

Sharwline arranged for friends and family to care for her children, called 911, and spent the night in the hospital recovering. The next day, she learned that the Administration for Children’s Services (ACS) had taken custody of her children, claiming they were at “imminent risk” because she could not protect herself or them from abuse. Her children were just nine months old and four years old. ACS also charged Sharwline with neglect for “engag[ing] in acts of domestic violence” in the presence of her child.

A Landmark Legal Victory

Represented by Sanctuary, Sharwline became the lead plaintiff on a class action lawsuit alongside other mothers challenging this injustice. In 2004, the New York Court of Appeals unanimously affirmed that survivors should not be blamed or punished for the abuse they endure. The Court recognized that keeping children with their mother is often safer and more stable than removing them.

Because of Sharwline’s courage in coming forward and fighting for her rights, her case became a landmark victory — establishing a powerful legal precedent that continues to protect survivors, mothers, and children today.


If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, know that there are resources available. The National Domestic Violence Hotline provides confidential support and information 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

If you live in New York City, please get in touch with Sanctuary for Families to get help.

Nine Years Early: Ms. H’s Release Through Covington’s Creative Advocacy

On September 11, 2025, Ms. H walked free — nine years before the completion of her sentence. For the advocates who stood beside her, it was a powerful affirmation of what is possible when the legal system is asked, not just to punish, but to reckon honestly with trauma, coercion, and survival.

Every year, Sanctuary for Families’ Pro Bono Project collaborates with talented and deeply committed pro bono attorneys. Through our Pro Bono Spotlight, we are proud to showcase the impactful work these attorneys carry out on behalf of Sanctuary’s clients.

*Please note that this blog contains descriptions of abuse that could be triggering*


On September 11, 2025, Ms. H walked free — nine years before the completion of her sentence. For her family, it marked the end of a long and uncertain chapter. For Ms. H, it was the first true chance in decades to begin again. And for the advocates who stood beside her, it was a powerful affirmation of what is possible when the legal system is asked, not just to punish, but to reckon honestly with trauma, coercion, and survival.

Ms. H’s release was not inevitable. It was hard-fought. It required creativity, persistence, and an unwavering belief that survivors of domestic violence should not spend decades incarcerated for crimes rooted in abuse. Ms. H’s case stands as a profound reminder that justice is not static, and that with the right advocacy, even seemingly immovable sentences can be undone.

Building Ms. H’s Team

Sanctuary for Families’ (Sanctuary) Incarcerated Gender Violence Survivors Initiative (IGVSI) began working with Ms. H in 2021, when Kate Mogulescu, Legal & Policy Director of the Survivors Justice Project, introduced IGVSI to her case. Kate remained involved throughout the representation, offering invaluable strategic insight and guidance.

Shortly thereafter, an outstanding pro bono team at Covington & Burling LLP partnered with IGVSI in representing Ms. H. The team included Kristen Mace, Partner; Michael E. Cunniff, Associate; Qijia “Janna” Yu, Associate; Anna Venguer Benrey, Associate; Stephanie Turrentine, Associate; Ryan Partelow, Associate; Braden Fain, Associate; Katherine Onyshko, Former Associate; and Tyler Holbrook, Former Associate.

At the time the team took on her case, Ms. H was serving a draconian 18-year sentence for two non-violent drug offenses and was incarcerated at Bedford Hills Correctional Facility in Westchester County.

Ms. H’s History and Sentence

Ms. H is a devoted mother whose life has been shaped by years of violence and instability, beginning with extreme domestic violence in her childhood home. As a child, she witnessed her stepfather’s severe violence against her mother and was sexually abused by one of his friends.

As an adult, Ms. H became trapped in a series of abusive relationships in which she was strangled, raped, and physically assaulted. Her abusers forced her into using and selling drugs, threatening further violence if she resisted. Drug dealers exploited her addiction and coerced her into sex, sometimes under threats to harm her children and family.

These cycles of abuse led directly to Ms. H’s crimes of conviction. In 2014, she pleaded guilty to two non-violent drug charges and was admitted into a Judicial Diversion Program requiring inpatient treatment. When she violated program rules (driven by fear, addiction and trauma) the court sentenced her to two nine-year prison terms. Although those sentences would ordinarily have run concurrently for a total of nine years, a subsequent jail rule violation led the court to impose the sentences consecutively, effectively doubling Ms. H’s punishment to 18 years.

A Survivor Left Out of the DVSJA

When New York enacted the Domestic Violence Survivors Justice Act (DVSJA) in 2019, it represented a groundbreaking recognition that survivors’ histories of abuse and trauma must be meaningfully considered at sentencing. In the years since, the DVSJA has given dozens of survivors a second chance by reducing unjustly long prison terms.

Ms. H should have been one of them. But due to an apparent oversight in the statute, the DVSJA does not apply to her specific offenses – even though her case fell squarely within the spirit of the statute.

As Janna reflected,

“What struck us most was the depth and duration of abuse Ms. H endured, and how thoroughly it shaped every aspect of her life and decision-making long before her conviction. The criminal legal system had never fully accounted for the cumulative impact of that trauma.”

An Outside the Box Legal Strategy

When it became clear that Ms. H was categorically excluded from relief under the DVSJA, her legal team refused to accept that exclusion as the final word. The law’s intent was unmistakable: survivors’ experiences of abuse matter, and punishment must be appropriate. That Ms. H was left out due to a gap in the statute did not make her sentence just, but the injustice more glaring.

Rather than walking away, the Covington team pursued an unconventional path forward. Working in close partnership with IGVSI, they petitioned the local District Attorney’s Office to look beyond rigid eligibility lines and confront the reality of Ms. H’s life: years of extreme abuse, coercion, addiction imposed by violence, and a sentence that bore no relationship to culpability.

Michael described the challenge candidly:

“There’s no procedure to follow. We had to make judgment calls at every step of the process. Coloring outside those lines challenged us to be the best advocates possible.”

The advocacy was deeply human. The written submission to the District Attorney’s (DA) Office included letters from both Covington and Sanctuary detailing Ms. H’s history of abuse, years of sobriety, and the strong family and community awaiting her upon release. The submission also traced the legislative intent of the DVSJA and explained why Ms. H’s exclusion from the statute was likely the result of oversight rather than design. To bring her story fully to life, the team included a short video with interviews from Ms. H’s family members, along with letters and photographs submitted in support of her release.

Throughout the process, collaboration was essential. Sanctuary worked closely with Covington and Ms. H to develop a comprehensive reentry plan, address concerns about recidivism, and secure letters of support from partner organizations who would assist Ms. H upon release.

After months of dialogue, creative and compassionate lawyering, and reflection, the DA’s office agreed that Ms. H deserved relief and joined Covington’s motion for resentencing. On June 9, 2025, the parties filed a joint motion pursuant to New York Criminal Procedure Law § 440.20.

Three months later, on September 11, 2025, the court resentenced Ms. H to concurrent nine-year terms, paving the way for her immediate release.

Assistance Beyond the Courtroom

Throughout the pendency of the case, Ms. H’s legal advocacy was supported by coordinated reentry planning to help ensure a stable foundation upon release. Working alongside Covington’s resentencing efforts, Sanctuary developed a comprehensive reentry plan that included referrals to transitional housing through its partnership with Jennifer House in Rochester and connections to trauma-informed services through Renewal House in St. Lawrence County. Ultimately, Ms. H chose to reunite with and live with her family following her release. She has also been referred to the job readiness track of Sanctuary’s Economic Empowerment Program, where staff are now working with her to develop a plan for employment and long-term stability – ensuring that the extraordinary legal victory achieved by Covington was matched by meaningful opportunities for Ms. H’s successful reentry.

A Life-Changing Result

Since her release, Ms. H has reunited with her family and is steadily working toward rebuilding her life – time she should never have lost, but is now reclaiming with strength and determination.

For her legal team, the moment of freedom was unforgettable. As Janna shared, “When Ms. H’s family let us know that they were en route to pick up Ms. H after her release from prison, it cemented the belief that gender violence survivors and their families deserve another chance to rebuild their life.” Michael echoed that sentiment, recalling that “everyone who met her wanted to fight for her.”

“The Covington team did outstanding work on this case. Their powerful advocacy and creative problem-solving won this client years of her life back. And their legal work was guided by patience and empathy at every step. The partnership between Covington and IGVSI was a true success.”

– Ross Kramer, Director, Sanctuary’s Incarcerated Gender Violence Survivors Initiative

Ms. H’s freedom is more than a legal victory. It is proof that when survivor-centered advocacy, creative lawyering, and collaboration come together, justice can move, sometimes dramatically, toward humanity.


If you would like to discuss ways in which your law firm, in-house legal department, or law school can partner with Sanctuary to provide pro bono legal services to our clients, please contact Nicole Fidler, Pro Bono Director at nfidler@sffny.org.

Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month: Online Safety Guide for Teens

For Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, Sanctuary for Families created a useful guide that highlights what every teen (and the adults who care about them) should know about online safety, digital boundaries, and tech-facilitated abuse.

For today’s teens, friendships, crushes, and dating are inextricable from social media, messaging apps, gaming platforms, and AI tools. Technology can help us connect, but it also introduces real safety risks that every teen should understand.

For Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, Sanctuary for Families created a useful online safety guide that highlights what every teen (and the adults who care about them) should know about tech-facilitated abuse, digital boundaries, and protective safeguards.

  1. What is Technology-Facilitated Abuse?
  2. Red Flags in Relationships Online
  3. Sexting, Pressure, & Consent
  4. Image-Based Abuse
  5. Impersonation & Sextortion
  6. What To Do If You Are Experiencing TFA
  7. To Parents, Educators, & Caregivers

What is Technology-Facilitated Abuse?

Abuse is not just physical. In many teen relationships, harm can occur through phones, apps, and platforms. This is known as technology-facilitated abuse (TFA), the use of digital tools to harass, monitor, threaten, or control someone.

Red Flags in Relationships Online

The values that shape healthy in-person relationships — respect, consent, boundaries, trust, and safety — also apply online.

Unhealthy online behaviors often involve pressure, manipulation, or monitoring.

Check out examples in the graphic below:


 

Sexting, Pressure, & Consent

Sexting — sending sexually explicit photographs or messages — can be a natural part of personal and sexual development and exploration.  However, teens should understand the emotional and legal risks associated with sexting.

Under New York state and federal law, possessing or sending nude images of a person under 18 is illegal, even if you are also under 18 years old. There is no “safe” way to send or have a nude image of a minor on your device — this is considered possession of child pornography.

Despite this, sexting is on the rise. A 2026 study found that nearly 1 in 3 young people reported having received a sext, and almost 1 in 4 said they had sent one.

Many teens face pressure to send intimate images — up to 70% of teenagers who have sexted reported feeling pressured or coerced to do so.

There cannot be consent if pressure is involved.

Consent is an ongoing mutual agreement between partners that must be freely given, not coerced.

Coercion can look like:

  • “If you loved me, you would send one.”
  • “Wow, you don’t trust me?”
  • “Are we even dating then?”
  • “Everyone does it.”

In safe sexting:

  • BOTH people consent — the person wants to send a message or image, and has been told by the other person that the other person wants to receive them
  • Participants exchange messages without pictures or videos (e.g. phone calls, texts)

If sending a photo (between adults), it’s best to:

  • Not include any identifying markers in a photo (face, tattoos, piercings, birthmarks, background of picture)
  • Ensure live photo is turned off
  • Consider the security of the app being used to send images
  • Understand that once an image is sent, control over it is lost

Image-Based Abuse

Image-based abuse, or non-consensual intimate image abuse (also known by the victim-blaming term “revenge porn”), is the sharing, posting, or forwarding of an intimate photo or video (real or digitally altered) of another individual without their consent.

It is ILLEGAL in all 50 states to non-consensually share intimate photos or videos of another person.

If you have experienced image-based abuse, know it is not your fault, and you are not alone. There are numerous avenues to stop the abuse, have the content taken down, and hold the perpetrator accountable, including Orders of Protection and requests to take down content on social media.

You have the right to expect private images to remain private.

If you have sent images of yourself, including while you are underage, you are still entitled to protection and help.

Impersonation & Sextortion

Online relationships can feel very real — and they can be. But it is difficult to know who you are really talking to online.

It is very common for perpetrators to impersonate a young person (“catfishing”) — often pretending to be a young, attractive girl or woman — in order to pressure someone to send an intimate picture.

This dangerous practice is called sextortion. It’s an increasingly prevalent form of abuse where a person threatens to disseminate another person’s sexually explicit images if they do not comply with their demands.

Historically, offenders have targeted young girls to extort them for money. But today, it’s young boys who are the overwhelming target — a 2024 study by the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) found that 90% of victims of financial sextortion were boys between the ages of 14 and 17.

If you are the victim of sextortion, know that help is available. Your family, loved ones, and community are here to support you, and there are resources to assist you.

Here are some tips to remain safe online:

  • Do not share personal information on gaming platforms or social media
  • Be wary of people trying to transition off video games to social media platforms
  • Know that having mutual friends with other users on social media does not mean you should automatically trust them
  • Trust your instincts if something feels off

Warning signs of a potentially unsafe online connection:

  • The relationship progresses quickly
  • They avoid video calls/meetings in person and only want to stay on apps/text
  • They have a limited or suspicious social media presence
  • They request money, gift cards, or images
  • Their profile and personality feel “too perfect”
  • They have an odd texting style

What To Do If You Are Experiencing TFA

Cyber sexual abuse and sextortion are illegal, and abusers can be held accountable. Victims should feel safe to seek help in New York State, even if they have shared intimate images of themselves as a minor.

Please know that giving in to blackmail requests hardly ever results in the threats stopping.

If explicit images of you (real or digitally altered) have been posted or shared, or you are getting threats about images being exposed, follow these steps:

1. Know that this is not your fault

2. Document evidence – EXCEPT nude photos under 18

Save screenshots, usernames, and messages. However, do NOT save or copy any nude or partially nude images of young people under 18, including yourself.

3. Block — but don’t delete

Block the offending account, but don’t delete messages, even if you are scared or upset. Conversations and profiles could be needed for reporting and getting assistance.

4. Seek support

Talk to a trusted adult, counselor, or organization for support and to get help getting your pictures taken down.

5. Report — and get content taken down

  • Take It Down (NCMEC) is a free service that can help you remove or stop the online sharing of nude, partially nude, or sexually explicit images or videos taken of you when you were under 18 years old.
  • Missing Kids has resources on how to remove intimate image content from many platforms, including TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube.
  • Love is Respect has excellent resources on teen dating violence.
  • Day One offers services to NYC youth age 24 and under.

To Parents, Caregivers, & Educators

Being a victim of sextortion can be incredibly difficult, especially for young people. Studies have found sextortion to be closely linked with the risk of suicide.

Having open, non-judgmental conversations with young people about online behavior, consent, and sexting can dramatically reduce risk of harm. Teens are more likely to seek help when they feel safe talking about uncomfortable experiences and know they can count on you for support.

Safety online is possible. With knowledge, boundaries, and support, teens can build respectful and healthy relationships — online and offline.


If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, know that there are resources available. The National Domestic Violence Hotline provides confidential support and information 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

If you live in New York City, please get in touch with Sanctuary for Families to get help.

What I Learned at the Second Forum on Domestic Violence & the 1980 Hague Convention

As Senior Staff Attorney for Sanctuary’s NGI, I was honored to attend the Second Forum on Domestic Violence & the 1980 Hague Abduction Convention. It was an incredible opportunity to share expertise, best practices, and proposed solutions to challenges. However, it was evident that there is still a lot of work to be done to protect survivors.

As Senior Staff Attorney for Sanctuary’s Narkis Golan International Child Abduction Initiative (NGI), I was honored to attend the Second Forum on Domestic Violence and the 1980 Hague Abduction Convention (the Forum), held this year from October 27-30, in Fortaleza, Brazil.


What is the Hague Abduction Convention?

The Forum’s stated goal was to bring together “all perspectives” to create a dialogue on the Hague Convention on International Child Abduction (“Hague Abduction Convention”), and how it relates specifically to cases involving domestic violence.

The Hague Abduction Convention is a multilateral treaty, wherein partner countries are bound to undertake a legal process for a child whose “left behind” parent accuses the “taking” or “fleeing” parent of wrongfully removing or retaining their child in a new country.

The Hague Abduction Convention was brokered in the 1980s, ostensibly to protect primary caretaker mothers from fathers kidnapping and hiding their children abroad. However, in practice, fathers are more often the petitioning parent. Now, we see that the Hague Abduction Convention is being weaponized by abusers against domestic violence survivors who flee with their children across international borders to safety.

There are certain defenses that the “taking” or “fleeing” parent can allege to prevent their children from being returned in Hague Abduction Convention litigation, such as the “grave risk of harm” defense, which is Article 13(b) under the Hague Abduction Convention. This defense is used when the fleeing parent alleges that the left behind parent committed acts of domestic violence and it is unsafe for the children to return to their former country. The Forum focused on the application of Article 13(b) and the unique considerations that pertain to cases involving domestic violence allegations.

Important Steps Forward at the Forum

The Forum brought together almost 500 participants, including jurists, Central Authority personnel, practitioners, advocates, academics, and non-governmental organizations such as Sanctuary for Families.

Multiple opening speakers, including Brazilian activist and namesake of a groundbreaking domestic violence law, Maria da Penha, emphasized the importance of protecting mothers and survivors in order to protect children.

As participants, we discussed “grave risk of harm cases” and worked through various hypothetical scenarios in breakout groups. It was an incredible learning opportunity to have experts from all different backgrounds sharing their experiences, best practices, and proposed solutions to challenges.

It is undisputed that the grave risk of harm defense is a very difficult case to prove, requiring substantial evidence from foreign countries and experts in the field.

The Forum highlighted why it is critical that the international bench, attorneys, and advocates be provided with robust, trauma-informed education on the Hague Abduction Convention and domestic violence in all its forms.

Respondents alleging the grave risk defense deserve experienced and sensitive representation.

Ongoing Challenges for Survivors

However, it was evident from the Forum that there is still a lot of work to be done.

Throughout the Forum, there was a strong undercurrent suggesting that there is no such thing as a “protective abduction”. This framing denies the courage and strength of a survivor of domestic violence who flees across international borders to protect themselves and their children from abuse.

There was also signaling that the Hague Convention does its job in preventing abductions from taking place. Specifically, many presenters stated that the Hague Convention, when applied correctly, is effective at stopping abductions and thus does not need to be altered. While the existence of the Convention may stop some “abductions” from taking place, this fact alone does not address the underlying issue that survivors fleeing domestic violence often cannot obtain proper protection under the Convention, as it is interpreted in courts today.

At the Forum, protective measures were presented as successful in protecting children who were returned to their former country. A judge can order protective measures, such as orders of protection against the abusive parent, to be put in place upon return to the former country. In practice, we see that these measures are not enforceable in the foreign country.

While well-intentioned, these measures can create a false sense of security that enables judges to decide to return children to unsafe environments.

Until these issues are properly recognized and there is open discussion for change, survivors will continue to face serious problems when courts issue return orders, even orders with so-called “protective measures.”

How Sanctuary’s NGI Helps

In 2024, Sanctuary formed the groundbreaking NGI to increase access to justice for survivors of gender-based violence who find themselves embroiled in complex and traumatic legal battles in the U.S. under the Hague Convention.

Our NGI team works every day to provide legal consultations and representation for respondents who have fled domestic violence, as well as to provide education to jurists and attorneys about domestic violence and the Hague Convention.

Attorneys interested in assisting Hague Convention respondents can contact us directly at GolanInitiative@sffny.org to receive training and further information. If you take a case from the Narkis Golan Initiative as a pro bono attorney, we will guide you through the process so that you feel supported and leave as an expert in Hague litigation.


Are you a survivor of gender-based violence who needs legal assistance with a U.S.-based Hague Convention case? Sanctuary can help.