Sanctuary Spotlight: Molly Snyder

A conversation with Sanctuary Board Member Molly Snyder, LCSW, on Sanctuary’s Camp HOPE NYC — a transformative weeklong summer camp for teens impacted by gender-based violence.

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We recently spoke with Molly Snyder, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Sanctuary Board member, and dedicated supporter of Sanctuary’s Camp HOPE NYC — a transformative weeklong summer camp for teens impacted by gender-based violence. In her work as an LCSW in private practice and as a Clinical Supervisor at the Jewish Board of Family and Children Services, Molly specializes in supporting women through life transitions, with deep expertise in treating trauma, anxiety, and depression. Her collaborative and curious approach helps her clients build self-understanding and create a clear, authentic vision for their future.

Tell us a little bit about yourself  — what is your background?

I grew up in San Diego, California. My mom was a professional in the Jewish community and my dad was a pediatrician. They both prioritized community involvement and activism. Specifically, my mom was focused on the importance of women being financially independent, which influenced my decision to go to business school and start my career in finance. I received my undergraduate business degree from the University of Michigan and started my career at Goldman Sachs in investment banking soon after. I then went back to receive my MBA from Columbia Business School and after graduation, joined an organization in lower Manhattan that helped businesses recover in the wake of 9/11. When my kids were in elementary school, I was excited to make a career change and got my Masters in Social Work from Columbia University.

What first drew you to Sanctuary, and what was it about the organization that made you want to get involved?

I started with Sanctuary over 10 years ago as a clinical intern during my time at Columbia School of Social Work. I loved my experience at Sanctuary and was inspired by the passion and professionalism of everyone across the organization. I also witnessed Sanctuary’s deep investment in the professional development of their interns and staff and the resulting impact that these efforts had on client care.

“There is a sense of passion and care at all levels of Sanctuary — from the Board to the staff, with an unparalleled commitment to clients.”  

How did you first learn about Camp HOPE, and what about Camp HOPE resonates with you?

I came to Sanctuary because I wanted to be more thoughtful about giving to causes that I care about, and given my history with Sanctuary, it was an obvious choice. It’s a privilege to see an organization from the inside and know that the work that they’re doing is of the highest quality. I was shown a few different options to support and I’ve always been a lover of camp, so Camp HOPE caught my attention right away.

For Camp Hope teens, I imagine that camp is literally and figuratively a breath of fresh air, giving them a chance to explore their interests, develop lasting friendships and connect with nature. Because of their life experiences, their nervous systems are likely on high alert most of the time, which can make it challenging to connect to others, to connect with themselves, and to just be a kid. I can’t think of a better place to decompress than in nature, in a supportive, safe environment where they can simply have fun.

Sanctuary teens at Camp HOPE NYC

What do you believe is the most important message for potential donors to understand?

There is a sense of passion and care at all levels of Sanctuary — from the Board to the staff  — with an unparalleled commitment to clients, ensuring that their needs are always the priority. Services are tailored to the individual circumstances and preferences of each client and much effort is dedicated to understanding the clients’ unique experience and their vision for themselves and their families. Sanctuary staff does a great job helping clients identify the pathway to reach their goals and provides the services and resources needed to support them along the way.

I also love Sanctuary’s holistic model, which includes shelter, clinical services, legal support, economic empowerment, and advocacy because each component is interconnected. For example, if you have a job and you’re constantly triggered from past trauma at work, you may have a hard time being productive or effective with assignments. Or if you don’t have a restraining order and you’re not feeling safe, it’s going to be difficult to work or to take care of your kids. I love that all the pieces are in place to address the multitude of challenges that clients face, in order to set them up for success. It’s really an honor to be on the Board and to be able to be engaged with such an exceptional organization.

What would you say to someone who is considering funding our work? What makes it worth their investment?

Knowing that your dollars are truly impacting change — on individuals, families, communities, and the systems our clients are forced to contend with — makes all the difference. Sanctuary provides a comprehensive model of high-quality services, ensuring the opportunity for clients to attain safety and stability for their themselves and their families. I think it’s important that funders know for certain that their dollars are directly impacting change.

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Karen King, 2024 Abely Awards Honoree

Established 27 years ago by Davis Polk, Sanctuary for Families, and Columbia Law School, the Abely Awards honor individuals who have made a difference in the lives of survivors of gender violence.

Established 27 years ago by Davis Polk & Wardwell LLP, Sanctuary for Families, and Columbia Law School, the Abely Awards honor individuals who have made a difference in the lives of survivors of gender violence and who embody Maryellen Abely’s compassion, zeal, energy, and dedication.

This year, we are thrilled to present the 2024 Abely Pro Bono Award to Karen King.

INTRODUCING KAREN

A Partner at Morvillo Abramowitz Grand Iason & Anello PC, Karen King is a skilled trial attorney and advocate who has represented both institutional and individual clients in federal and state courts across the country.  Karen has been practicing for over 24 years, and began her legal career as an associate at Cravath, Swaine & Moore, and later as Counsel at Paul, Weiss, Rifkind, Wharton & Garrison LLP.  Her regular practice focuses on complex commercial litigation, compliance and regulatory enforcement matters, securities litigation and regulation, internal investigations, and strategic advice.  Karen was named a “Distinguished Leader” by New York Law Journal in September 2022 and a “Notable Woman in Law” by Crain’s New York Business in June 2023. 

Throughout her legal career, Karen has prioritized pro bono service. She was the recipient of the American Bar Association Pro Bono Publico award in 2023, the Federal Bar Council’s Thurgood Marshall Award for Exceptional Pro Bono Service in 2019, as well as the Pro Bono award from the National Asian Pacific American Bar Association.  She is a member of the Second Circuit Pro Bono Panel and the Asian American Bar Association of New York’s Anti-Asian Violence Task Force.  She is a co-editor of two papers on the rise of hate and violence against Asian Americans during the COVID-19 pandemic.  She also successfully litigated a decade-long Title VII case on behalf of Asian-American police officers at the Port Authority of New York and New Jersey.  Her pro bono clients include victims of domestic violence, students with learning disabilities, victims of gun violence, and prisoners on civil rights issues.

Over the past six years, Karen provided dedicated, strategic, and trauma-informed legal representation in an exceptionally complex case under the Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction involving a young Orthodox Jewish mother fleeing domestic violence in Italy with her two-year-old son.  The case moved from federal court in the Eastern District of New York to the United States Supreme Court and back to the Eastern District. Not only did Karen argue and secure a unanimous decision before the Supreme Court in favor of her client—a ruling that will benefit numerous other survivors around the country—but her critical work on the case helped ensure the child was ultimately able to remain safely in the care of his aunt, even after the tragic, premature death of the mother during the protracted litigation. Karen now co-chairs the Narkis Golan Initiative, named in honor of her late client, which provides resources to advance the rights of domestic violence survivors in child abduction cases around the country.

Karen holds a bachelor’s degree from Yale University and a juris doctorate from Harvard Law School.

Hon. Madeline Singas, 2024 Abely Awards Honoree

Established 27 years ago by Davis Polk, Sanctuary for Families, and Columbia Law School, the Abely Awards honor individuals who have made a difference in the lives of survivors of gender violence.

Established 27 years ago by Davis Polk & Wardwell LLP, Sanctuary for Families, and Columbia Law School, the Abely Awards honor individuals who have made a difference in the lives of survivors of gender violence and who embody Maryellen Abely’s compassion, zeal, energy, and dedication.

This year, we are thrilled to present the 2024 Abely Leading Women and Children to Safety Award to the Honorable Madeline Singas.

INTRODUCING JUDGE SINGAS

Judge Madeline Singas was appointed to the New York Court of Appeals in 2021 after thirty years of public service and leadership advancing safety and justice for the most vulnerable crime victims – children, the elderly, immigrants, and survivors of domestic violence and sexual abuse.

Early in her legal career as an Assistant District Attorney in Queens County, Judge Singas specialized in combating domestic violence at a time when survivors had little faith in the criminal justice system. Working hard to change that perception and confronting the inadequacies suffered by gender violence survivors in the criminal justice system, Judge Singas focused on cases of domestic violence and sexual assault.

After joining the Nassau County District Attorney’s office in 2006, she established and served as Chief of its Special Victims Bureau assisting victims of elder abuse, sexual assault, child abuse, and domestic violence; created the County’s first Office of Immigrant Affairs to help immigrants access criminal justice protections; and challenged a status quo that undervalued the rights and needs of women. In 2011 she became Nassau County’s Chief Assistant District Attorney and in 2015, and again in 2019, was elected to the position of Nassau County District Attorney, where she became a vocal advocate of criminal justice and gun violence reform.

Judge Singas has carried her passionate determination to advance gender justice and be a voice for gender violence survivors to her service on the bench of New York State’s highest court.  During her tenure on the New York Court of Appeals, she has presided over landmark gender violence cases where she has brought to the fore with eloquence and urgency inequities faced by gender violence survivors in legal proceedings.  She has also developed the Judges for Career Opportunities for Refugees (J-COR) program to assist Afghan refugees, shining a bright light on the plight of women in Afghanistan’s legal system who have fled persecution by the Taliban and supporting them in resuming their professional lives in New York State’s court system.

After graduating from Bronx High School of Science in Bronx, New York, Judge Singas earned her bachelor’s degree from Barnard College at Columbia University and her law degree from Fordham University School of Law.

Empowering Survivors: Spotlight on Mintz’s Pro Bono Champion, Nick Butto

Discover the dedication of Nick Butto, a Litigation Associate at Mintz, in our latest Pro Bono Partner Spotlight. Nick’s tireless efforts and compassionate advocacy provide crucial support and justice for survivors of gender-based violence.

Sanctuary for Families’ Pro Bono Project has the honor of working with hundreds of extremely dedicated and expert pro bono attorneys annually. As part of our Pro Bono Spotlight, we highlight some of the great work done by Sanctuary pro bono attorneys!

*Please note that this blog contains descriptions of abuse that could be triggering*


We first connected with Nicholas (“Nick”) A. Butto, Litigation Associate and member of the pro bono committee at Mintz, in November 2022. Since then, he has thrown himself into both coordinating pro bono partnerships between Mintz and Sanctuary and taking on a hefty caseload of pro bono matters himself. While Nick’s work has ranged from co-counseling with our Family Law attorneys on Orders of Protection and custody trials, to drafting motions, to representing survivors in their asylum claims, one through-line is constant: Nick’s undeniable dedication to assisting survivors in any way he can, with extraordinary efficacy and compassion. We are thrilled to highlight Nick for his incredible advocacy on behalf of survivors.

One of Nick’s first Sanctuary cases involved an Order of Protection litigation for Ms. L, a survivor of intimate partner violence that included verbal and emotional abuse, stalking, and severe physical abuse.

Lindsey Song, Associate Program Director of the Family Law Project, explains,

“Nick was able to get a 5-year OP on consent, which in itself can be very challenging as it requires the abuser to make significant admissions on the record. Nick is not only super competent, organized, and effective, he is also just so kind, lovely, and easy to talk to. It is clear how comfortable our client feels going to him with any concerns or questions!”

Lindsey adds that it’s evident that his passion for helping survivors runs deep; Nick worked in the Georgetown University Law Center Domestic Violence Clinic. Nick is currently working on another Order of Protection and custody trial with Lindsey, which he agreed to take on even though trial was set to begin shortly – he is now mid-trial in that case.

Nick has also worked closely with Erin Mears, Senior Staff Attorney of the Community Law Project, on a custody modification that originated as a Motion to Dismiss drafting project and is now in the final stages of settlement. Erin reflects, “Because he was so great I asked him if he had any interest to continue working on the case, and now he’s really taking the lead, with me in the backseat whenever he needs support. He’s just really willing and genuinely interested in doing the work, and connects incredibly well with the client. This client in particular had a lot of anxiety around her case, and Nick is always compassionate, willing to speak with her, and understanding.”

Erin also said,

“Out of all the pro bono attorneys I’ve worked with, he’s been one of the best with clients. This client is a survivor of sexual assault, and for her to feel so comfortable around a male attorney really says something. He seems to instinctually know how to connect with clients and seems really at ease with them. And you can see that the client feels very empowered having a strong attorney on her side.”

Nick has taken the lead on settlement negotiations and is close to securing a final resolution that the client is comfortable with.

To top it off, Nick is now also working on an asylum case with Immigration Project Associate Director Deirdre Stradone, who states, “I recently began to work with Nick on an asylum case in removal proceedings.  Before I even had the opportunity to meet Nick, I was already hearing from my colleagues on other legal teams about his kindness, trauma-informed lawyering, and unwavering dedication to our clients.  In the past few months as we have worked with Ms. N.C.S. on her asylum, I have seen for myself how Nick lives up to all these accolades. I am sure Ms. N.C.S. joins me in my expression of gratitude for all of Nick’s support. He is a truly amazing pro bono partner to SFF and I’m so happy to see him receive this recognition for his work.”

Sue Finnegan, Member and Chair of the Pro Bono Committee at Mintz, adds,

“Nick is so committed to his pro bono clients. His enthusiasm for the work has encouraged so many other attorneys in the New York Office to work with Sanctuary and its deserving clients.”

I sat down with Nick to hear more about his experience seeking out, coordinating, and conducting pro bono work on behalf of gender-based violence survivors.

What made you want to do pro bono work, and why work with gender violence survivors specifically?

I first became interested in being a lawyer to try to help amplify the voices of individuals who might find it difficult to access the justice system. I have been practicing for almost six years now—the last two at Mintz—and have been lucky to have access to a lot of resources that have allowed me to do that. As a law student, I participated in my school’s domestic violence clinic, and in practice, I have tried to take on a substantial pro bono caseload from early on in my career.

But with respect to gender-based violence survivors specifically, I so admire the work that the lawyers at organizations like Sanctuary do every day. Given how widespread of a problem intimate partner violence is, and how infrequently survivors are able to secure relief or protection from the justice system, I know it’s a constant uphill battle, and I just hope to be able to use the resources available to me to help survivors be heard, and ideally to feel that they and their families are safe from harm, like everyone deserves.

What has been your experience working with survivors predominantly in the Family Law arena?

Working on cases for survivors of intimate partner violence in Family Law definitely feels different than other cases—even than other pro bono cases. On one hand, helping a client achieve asylum, for example, ideally leads up to an amazing “victory” for the client and the legal team. On the other, working to secure Orders of Protection or other forms of relief for survivors of intimate partner violence does not have the same sort of victorious feeling, because you feel like this should never have happened in the first place. So even in “successful” cases, where we get the full Order we are seeking, the relief I feel for the client is often matched with frustration at the fact that our client had to endure such a long and difficult process just to achieve this basic form of safety and stability.

Sanctuary attorneys have glowing reviews of your trauma-informed, client-centered lawyering. How do you approach working with survivor populations?

I’ve now spoken with more than a dozen individuals who have suffered some sort of gender-based violence and I think that the initial conversations can be intimidating for everyone in the room, including the lawyers. The way I approach it is by listening first. So much of the power dynamic in abusive relationships leads to survivors not being heard: by their partner, by friends and family, by authorities. When you sit down with survivors, you hear how strong they are, how much they have to say, and how willing they are to fight for themselves given the right forum to do so. But it’s a process; you have to meet with clients a few times, because no one opens up 100% in the first meeting. So I try to establish trust, that what they’ve gone through is real, that it is their story to tell, and that we as lawyers are there to support them along the way.

What pro bono case stood out to you? Why?

One client I’m representing is currently in the midst of trial and seeking an order of protection. We’ve been through most of her direct examination at this point. I remember that in our first couple of meetings, she was hesitant about sharing certain parts of her story, and the thought of having to give details in court made her very nervous. But after numerous prep sessions and nearly two hours of testimony at her first day of trial, I have seen the sense of empowerment that telling her story has given her. In our latest prep meeting, she ended our conversation with, “I’m ready for this.” She has gained so much strength, and seeing that growth over the last year and a half has been amazing. She has an incredibly strong case but has been through a lot. It’s always tough to ask survivors to repeat and relive certain traumas but you can often see how valuable it is for them to be able to speak their whole truths.

Are there any cases you’re working on now that you’re excited about?

I’m now working on my first Sanctuary asylum case. Our team has met with the client three times now, and she just recently shared with us the part of her story about the trek from Honduras through Guatemala and Mexico to the US. We had heard about the violence she had both witnessed and endured herself, but hearing about the life-changing decision to leave, not because she wanted to, but because she knew it was the only way to have a chance at giving her children a future free of danger and fear, was really moving. Over the last 15 years she’s been through maybe more than any client I’ve worked with–from her community, gangs, intimate partners, and her own government—and for her to have the courage to make that incredibly difficult journey, with no guarantee of success and against significant odds, and make it to New York and find access to legal resources is so inspiring. No one deserves asylum more than she and her children do.

We are deeply grateful to Nick for his outstanding advocacy and commitment to serving survivors.