Women’s History Month: Honoring Sharwline Nicholson

Sanctuary client Sharwline Nicholson’s landmark legal case paved the way for stronger protections for survivors and their children.

During Women’s History Month, Sanctuary for Families honors the women whose courage has transformed systems to recognize and respond to the needs of survivors.


Just over 20 years ago in New York City, a survivor could have their children taken away for “engaging” in domestic violence — a devastating practice that punished those it should have protected.

Refusing to accept this injustice, Sanctuary client Sharwline Nicholson spoke out, paving the way for stronger protections for survivors and their children.

Sharwline’s Story

In 1999, when Sharwline ended her relationship with the father of one of her two children, he responded with violence. Though he had never previously threatened or assaulted her, he punched her, kicked her, and broke her arm while their baby was asleep in the next room.

Sharwline arranged for friends and family to care for her children, called 911, and spent the night in the hospital recovering. The next day, she learned that the Administration for Children’s Services (ACS) had taken custody of her children, claiming they were at “imminent risk” because she could not protect herself or them from abuse. Her children were just nine months old and four years old. ACS also charged Sharwline with neglect for “engag[ing] in acts of domestic violence” in the presence of her child.

A Landmark Legal Victory

Represented by Sanctuary, Sharwline became the lead plaintiff on a class action lawsuit alongside other mothers challenging this injustice. In 2004, the New York Court of Appeals unanimously affirmed that survivors should not be blamed or punished for the abuse they endure. The Court recognized that keeping children with their mother is often safer and more stable than removing them.

Because of Sharwline’s courage in coming forward and fighting for her rights, her case became a landmark victory — establishing a powerful legal precedent that continues to protect survivors, mothers, and children today.


If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, know that there are resources available. The National Domestic Violence Hotline provides confidential support and information 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

If you live in New York City, please get in touch with Sanctuary for Families to get help.

Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month: Online Safety Guide for Teens

For Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, Sanctuary for Families created a useful guide that highlights what every teen (and the adults who care about them) should know about online safety, digital boundaries, and tech-facilitated abuse.

For today’s teens, friendships, crushes, and dating are inextricable from social media, messaging apps, gaming platforms, and AI tools. Technology can help us connect, but it also introduces real safety risks that every teen should understand.

For Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, Sanctuary for Families created a useful online safety guide that highlights what every teen (and the adults who care about them) should know about tech-facilitated abuse, digital boundaries, and protective safeguards.

  1. What is Technology-Facilitated Abuse?
  2. Red Flags in Relationships Online
  3. Sexting, Pressure, & Consent
  4. Image-Based Abuse
  5. Impersonation & Sextortion
  6. What To Do If You Are Experiencing TFA
  7. To Parents, Educators, & Caregivers

What is Technology-Facilitated Abuse?

Abuse is not just physical. In many teen relationships, harm can occur through phones, apps, and platforms. This is known as technology-facilitated abuse (TFA), the use of digital tools to harass, monitor, threaten, or control someone.

Red Flags in Relationships Online

The values that shape healthy in-person relationships — respect, consent, boundaries, trust, and safety — also apply online.

Unhealthy online behaviors often involve pressure, manipulation, or monitoring.

Check out examples in the graphic below:


 

Sexting, Pressure, & Consent

Sexting — sending sexually explicit photographs or messages — can be a natural part of personal and sexual development and exploration.  However, teens should understand the emotional and legal risks associated with sexting.

Under New York state and federal law, possessing or sending nude images of a person under 18 is illegal, even if you are also under 18 years old. There is no “safe” way to send or have a nude image of a minor on your device — this is considered possession of child pornography.

Despite this, sexting is on the rise. A 2026 study found that nearly 1 in 3 young people reported having received a sext, and almost 1 in 4 said they had sent one.

Many teens face pressure to send intimate images — up to 70% of teenagers who have sexted reported feeling pressured or coerced to do so.

There cannot be consent if pressure is involved.

Consent is an ongoing mutual agreement between partners that must be freely given, not coerced.

Coercion can look like:

  • “If you loved me, you would send one.”
  • “Wow, you don’t trust me?”
  • “Are we even dating then?”
  • “Everyone does it.”

In safe sexting:

  • BOTH people consent — the person wants to send a message or image, and has been told by the other person that the other person wants to receive them
  • Participants exchange messages without pictures or videos (e.g. phone calls, texts)

If sending a photo (between adults), it’s best to:

  • Not include any identifying markers in a photo (face, tattoos, piercings, birthmarks, background of picture)
  • Ensure live photo is turned off
  • Consider the security of the app being used to send images
  • Understand that once an image is sent, control over it is lost

Image-Based Abuse

Image-based abuse, or non-consensual intimate image abuse (also known by the victim-blaming term “revenge porn”), is the sharing, posting, or forwarding of an intimate photo or video (real or digitally altered) of another individual without their consent.

It is ILLEGAL in all 50 states to non-consensually share intimate photos or videos of another person.

If you have experienced image-based abuse, know it is not your fault, and you are not alone. There are numerous avenues to stop the abuse, have the content taken down, and hold the perpetrator accountable, including Orders of Protection and requests to take down content on social media.

You have the right to expect private images to remain private.

If you have sent images of yourself, including while you are underage, you are still entitled to protection and help.

Impersonation & Sextortion

Online relationships can feel very real — and they can be. But it is difficult to know who you are really talking to online.

It is very common for perpetrators to impersonate a young person (“catfishing”) — often pretending to be a young, attractive girl or woman — in order to pressure someone to send an intimate picture.

This dangerous practice is called sextortion. It’s an increasingly prevalent form of abuse where a person threatens to disseminate another person’s sexually explicit images if they do not comply with their demands.

Historically, offenders have targeted young girls to extort them for money. But today, it’s young boys who are the overwhelming target — a 2024 study by the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) found that 90% of victims of financial sextortion were boys between the ages of 14 and 17.

If you are the victim of sextortion, know that help is available. Your family, loved ones, and community are here to support you, and there are resources to assist you.

Here are some tips to remain safe online:

  • Do not share personal information on gaming platforms or social media
  • Be wary of people trying to transition off video games to social media platforms
  • Know that having mutual friends with other users on social media does not mean you should automatically trust them
  • Trust your instincts if something feels off

Warning signs of a potentially unsafe online connection:

  • The relationship progresses quickly
  • They avoid video calls/meetings in person and only want to stay on apps/text
  • They have a limited or suspicious social media presence
  • They request money, gift cards, or images
  • Their profile and personality feel “too perfect”
  • They have an odd texting style

What To Do If You Are Experiencing TFA

Cyber sexual abuse and sextortion are illegal, and abusers can be held accountable. Victims should feel safe to seek help in New York State, even if they have shared intimate images of themselves as a minor.

Please know that giving in to blackmail requests hardly ever results in the threats stopping.

If explicit images of you (real or digitally altered) have been posted or shared, or you are getting threats about images being exposed, follow these steps:

1. Know that this is not your fault

2. Document evidence – EXCEPT nude photos under 18

Save screenshots, usernames, and messages. However, do NOT save or copy any nude or partially nude images of young people under 18, including yourself.

3. Block — but don’t delete

Block the offending account, but don’t delete messages, even if you are scared or upset. Conversations and profiles could be needed for reporting and getting assistance.

4. Seek support

Talk to a trusted adult, counselor, or organization for support and to get help getting your pictures taken down.

5. Report — and get content taken down

  • Take It Down (NCMEC) is a free service that can help you remove or stop the online sharing of nude, partially nude, or sexually explicit images or videos taken of you when you were under 18 years old.
  • Missing Kids has resources on how to remove intimate image content from many platforms, including TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube.
  • Love is Respect has excellent resources on teen dating violence.
  • Day One offers services to NYC youth age 24 and under.

To Parents, Caregivers, & Educators

Being a victim of sextortion can be incredibly difficult, especially for young people. Studies have found sextortion to be closely linked with the risk of suicide.

Having open, non-judgmental conversations with young people about online behavior, consent, and sexting can dramatically reduce risk of harm. Teens are more likely to seek help when they feel safe talking about uncomfortable experiences and know they can count on you for support.

Safety online is possible. With knowledge, boundaries, and support, teens can build respectful and healthy relationships — online and offline.


If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, know that there are resources available. The National Domestic Violence Hotline provides confidential support and information 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

If you live in New York City, please get in touch with Sanctuary for Families to get help.

Cleary Gottlieb: Sanctuary Pro Bono Partner Spotlight

A spotlight on Sanctuary Pro Bono Partner Cleary Gottlieb for their team’s outstanding work in helping reunite a family separated by abuse.

Sanctuary for Families’ Pro Bono Project has the honor of working with hundreds of extremely dedicated and expert pro bono attorneys per year. As part of our new Pro Bono Spotlight, we’ll be highlighting some of the great work done by Sanctuary pro bono attorneys!

*Please note that this blog contains descriptions of physical and sexual abuse that could be triggering*


Cleary Gottlieb Team Headed by Ludivine van der Heyden Provides Support in Complex Family Reunification Case 

We are thrilled to highlight the outstanding advocacy by the law firm Cleary Gottlieb Steen & Hamilton LLP, and in particular the dedication demonstrated by Pro Bono Immigration Attorney Ludivine Van der Heyden, in a family reunification case that reunited a Senegalese mother with her two daughters against all odds.

Over the course of months and years, Cleary Pro Bono Immigration Attorney Ludivine Van der Heyden, along with Sanctuary Senior Staff Attorney Ines Chennoufi, Family Reunification Coordinator Karine Jeannet, and Senior Immigration Specialist Carolien Hardenbol, were able at long last to reunite Sanctuary’s Senegalese client, Ms. T, with her daughters.

Sanctuary’s client, Ms. T, had been forced to flee Senegal in 2019 after experiencing severe abuse at the hands of her former husband. Despite Ms. T having received a divorce order and full custody of the children, Ms. T’s abuser continued to track her across the country, threatening to kill her and vowing to subject their two daughters to Female Genital Mutilation (FGM). Given the imminent danger of her situation, Ms. T was forced to flee without her daughters, and she left them both in secure hiding places with the intention of quickly bringing them into the United States. Ultimately, with Ludivine’s representation, Ms. T’s case was expedited, she was able to prove that her life would be in grave risk were she forced to return to Senegal, and she was granted asylum in June 2021. Her asylee status provided a pathway for her daughters to claim the same immigration status as her derivatives. However, this would prove to be far from the end of the family’s legal troubles, as agency delays exacerbated by COVID-19 made the process of bringing the daughters over extremely lengthy.

Around February 2022, given the imminent danger of FGM and forced marriage to both daughters, Ines Chennoufi requested assistance from Senator Gillibrand’s Office to pressure USCIS to quickly adjudicate the daughters’ cases. The danger escalated when, in April 2022, the father located and unsuccessfully attempted to kidnap the younger daughter, Amy*, on her way home from school. In light of that kidnapping attempt and in fear of a second attempt, Ines once again reached out to Senator Gillibrand’s Office, and in a matter of weeks, USCIS approved the daughters’ applications to join their mother in the U.S. This critical approval resulted in the case being transferred to the National Visa Center before the case file reaches the Consulate Post in the home country, in this case in Dakar, Senegal.

What followed would be several more months of legal advocacy around nearly every stage of the cases’ transfer: advocacy to USCIS to swiftly transfer the cases to the National Visa Center and on to the consular post; advocacy to Senator Gillibrand’s office to push the Dakar Embassy to expedite processing (a request which was inexplicably denied by the Dakar Embassy); and multiple calls, emails, and unsuccessful visits to the Embassy from September through February in an attempt to schedule a visa interview for the two daughters. Despite the Visa Appointment Portal allegedly being open, there were no appointments available for over five months.

At this juncture, in January 2023, given the complete lack of action on the part of the Embassy, Ludivine, Ines, Carolien, and Karine knew that filing a federal mandamus complaint was the only option remaining to get an interview for the daughters scheduled. Such a complaint can be used to compel an agency, such as the Department of Homeland Security, to adjudicate a case when the client has a right to relief and there is no other remedy available. The complaint drafted by Cleary Gottlieb expertly laid out DHS’ duty to schedule interviews for Amy* and Maimouna*, her sister; the harm to Ms. T caused by this lengthy and arduous legal battle; and the current threat posed to the girls.

Ludivine reached out to the government’s counsel with a draft complaint in mid-March to start negotiations before filing the complaint. Two weeks after the initial contact, likely due to the strength of the arguments in the mandamus brief, the interviews were finally scheduled.

Things moved quickly after that—on April 19 Amy* and Maimouna* were granted their visas. Karine immediately got to work connecting the daughters with resources, including furniture for their home, an intensive English course, medical care, and housing. The daughters were joyfully reunited with their mother at the airport in New York on May 7, 2023.

We sat down with Ludivine to hear a bit more about her experience.

Why do you do pro bono work?

Pro bono work is a passion of mine and one of the reasons why I became a lawyer. The proximity with the clients, sharing their stories, learning about their cultures, speaking in different languages, all of that is something I really enjoy, especially coming from an international background.

What made you want to take on Ms. T’s case?

I developed the relationship with Ms. T when I was a senior staff attorney at Sanctuary. At the time, l worked hard to expedite her asylum interview during COVID at the asylum office. When I returned to Cleary, I continued my relationship with her as a pro bono working on her green card application. Around that same time, Sanctuary reached out saying, Ms. T has this issue with her girls – do you think you could help? And we said yes – we (at Cleary) have experience in Federal Court, I’m admitted to SDNY and EDNY, and we as a firm have connections with other organizations that specialize in litigating immigration courses in federal court. Through our network, we immediately were able to reach out to National Immigration Litigation Alliance (NILA), who provided a training on how to challenge agency delays. This was really key support – this was Cleary’s first mandamus case associated with derivative asylees, and we only had a few weeks to do this. We immediately started preparing a draft mandamus complaint. We worked with Sanctuary to gather the facts, and Cleary focused on the legal argument. It was a great collaboration between the nonprofit and private sector, where we were all contributing our expertise to support this survivor and her family.

What was your experience working with Ms. T like? How would you describe her?

She’s a remarkable client – really warm and smart, and she has the best smile in the world. She moved me as a mother fighting so hard for her daughters since the very beginning, and trying so hard to keep them safe. She’s also extremely determined and resourceful – very well-organized. Anyone who works with her becomes invested in her case.

What was the most challenging part of this process?

The unknown – not knowing if this was going to actually work or not. We had put in a lot of efforts into the complaint and had to manage the client’s expectations as well.

Which moment was the most impactful for you?

Probably meeting with the girls in New York. But every step of the way really, hearing that they had been able to board the plane successfully, telling the client that the interview had been scheduled and hearing her reaction… there were a lot of good moments. What made this case special was the continued relationship with Ms. T. We were following this family’s life and trying to make sure that they would get the best start in the U.S.

We are so grateful to the Cleary Gottlieb team for all of their advocacy and their assistance in drafting this mandamus complaint, which pushed DHS into action at long last, and we are in awe of the dedication and legal acumen demonstrated by Ludivine in her tireless work to help Ms. T seek safety and stability and to reunite this family.


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Cozen O’Connor: Sanctuary Pro Bono Partner Spotlight

A spotlight on Sanctuary Pro Bono Partner Cozen O’Connor for their team’s outstanding work in assisting an incarcerated domestic violence survivor on her DVSJA application and helping secure her release.

Sanctuary for Families’ Pro Bono Project has the honor of working with hundreds of extremely dedicated and expert pro bono attorneys per year. As part of our new Pro Bono Spotlight, we’ll be highlighting some of the great work done by Sanctuary pro bono attorneys!

*Please note that this blog contains descriptions of physical and sexual abuse that could be triggering*


Cozen O’Connor Team Help Secure Freedom for Incarcerated Domestic Violence Survivor

We are thrilled to share that another one of Sanctuary’s Incarcerated Gender Violence Survivors Initiative clients, Ms. S, has been released due to the outstanding efforts of a Cozen O’Connor team headed by Members Matthew L. Elkin and Emily Shoor. Matt and Emily, along with their team, spent three years working on Ms. S’s DVSJA resentencing motion, which was approved in March 2023.

After a Domestic Violence Survivors Justice Act (DVSJA) resentencing motion granted in March of 2023, Sanctuary’s client, Ms. S, was released after more than 10 years of incarceration for the stabbing death of her severely abusive former intimate partner. Without DVSJA resentencing, she would have served nearly 15 more years for her manslaughter conviction, in which she stabbed her abuser after he broke into her home in the middle of the night, threw her against a wall, and began to strangle her. We are deeply grateful to Matt Elkin and Emily Shoor from Cozen O’Connor for investing hundreds of hours into securing freedom for this survivor.

Like many incarcerated women, Ms. S has been subjected to unconscionable levels of abuse throughout her life, both at the hands of intimate partners and family members. Former partners have subjected her to severe sexual and physical violence, trafficking, forced drug usage, and repeated threats to her life with guns and violence.

The abuse perpetrated by Mr. B, the partner whose death led to Ms. S’s incarceration, began almost immediately after they started dating and escalated rapidly to severe physical, sexual, and psychological abuse. On multiple occasions he strangled Ms. S to the point of unconsciousness. He was jealous and controlling, and would frequently yell at Ms. S in public, break her things, and humiliate her. The abuse she suffered put Ms. S at a significantly high risk of femicide at the hands of her abuser. Under Dr. Jacquelyn Campbell’s widely used Danger Assessment, an escalation of violence, strangulation, sexual assault, violent jealously, and control are all indicators of an increased risk of lethality.

At great risk to her safety, Ms. S left Mr. B and began to implement an exit strategy, changing the locks of her doors, telling family and friends to keep Mr. B away, and planning to move to a new apartment.

However, the day before Ms. S was scheduled to move, she woke up to find Mr. B standing over her, having broken into her apartment. Mr. B attacked Ms. S, throwing her against a wall and strangling her. To protect herself, Ms. S grabbed a nearby sharp object and stabbed Mr. B once. The blow was not intended to be fatal – in fact, Ms. S immediately began conducting CPR on Mr. B, and she did not know that Mr. B had died until the police revealed it to her in questioning.

This history of domestic violence and the circumstances surrounding Mr. B’s death were never raised at trial. Ms. S was acquitted of second degree murder but convicted of manslaughter in the first degree and given the maximum sentence of 25 years.

In her ten-plus years of her incarceration, Ms. S has worked hard to heal from her trauma, taking nonviolent conflict resolution courses and aggression replacement training. She has thrived academically and professionally, holding several jobs at the prison while completing her Associate’s and Bachelor’s Degree, as well as a writing course and a Basic Legal Research and Law Library Management course. During this time, Ms. S also reached out to Sanctuary for legal assistance. After hearing her story Sanctuary recruited the law firm of Cozen O’Connor to help Ms. S, and Cozen O’Connor Members Matt L. Elkin and Emily Shoor agreed to represent Ms. S pro bono on her DVSJA application.

We reached out to Emily and Matt to hear more about their experience working with Ms. S.

What made you want to take on Ms. S’s case? What was your experience like working with her?

Matt: It was very clear from the beginning that Ms. S had lived a really tragic life and tragic circumstances led to her incarceration, but she still had such a positive attitude about her. We could tell that on a day-to-day basis she struggled to maintain [this attitude], day after day and week after week and year after year in Bedford Hills where things didn’t get any better, but she always kept up hope and was enthusiastic to work with us, which made her a tremendous client to work with.

What do you find compelling about DVSJA resentencing cases, as opposed to other cases with incarcerated survivors? What unique challenges and opportunities do they present?

Emily: I think it’s really wonderful that the [DVSJA] legislation opened the door for so many people to seek resentencing for circumstances that weren’t originally considered at their sentencing hearings. Ms. S was serving the maximum sentence for the crime of manslaughter, 25 years. And the DVSJA maximum sentence is only 5 years. So it gives people an opportunity to get their lives back, which is really compelling all on its own.

Which moment in your representation was the most impactful for you?

Matt: The obvious moment is when we were in court, after the judge ordered resentencing, listening to Ms. S express her gratitude to everyone who had a role in her resentencing for giving her this chance to ger her life back . On top of this, Ms. S was resentenced on a Thursday afternoon in Rochester and we were under the impression that she wasn’t going to be able to get out of prison before the weekend because she was incarcerated at Bedford Hills in Westchester. This was one of those things that we’d prepared ourselves and Ms. S for as an unfortunate reality. But that didn’t stop us from trying, and we asked the Judge if she could try to motivate [the Department of] Corrections to get things moving, and then everyone really sprang into action. The DA’s office supported our request; one of the guards who transported Ms. S from prison before the hearing approached the bench and explained the logistics of prisoner transport; the Judge’s law clerks were on the phone with their contacts at DOCCS before the hearing even ended; the team from Willow [Domestic Violence Center] was calling politicians and asking everyone they knew for support. Watching the entire community rally around Ms. S was particularly impactful. She was out of prison by lunchtime the next day, much to everyone’s surprise.

Emily: Also, the assistance that we got from the Monroe County DA, Sandra Doorley and from ADA Patrick Gallagher was amazing. DA Doorley was open minded and agreed to meet with us so we could discuss Ms. S’s case and advocate on her behalf directly. It also gave us the opportunity to “introduce” Ms. S to DA Doorley, by allowing us to convey Ms. S’s story beyond the words on paper. Once the DA’s office consented to the re-sentencing application, their cooperation and assistance proved invaluable. It’s such a unique experience in court to have both sides working to achieve the same result, and the Judge was clearly moved by the cooperation between both sides. It was really the most joyous a criminal courtroom could be.

Anything else you want to mention?

Emily: I’m really grateful to Sanctuary for partnering with firms to give attorneys the opportunity to do this kind of work in conjunction with their mentorship and expertise. Without the IGVSI team, Kayla, Ross, and Isabelle, we would not have been able to do this.

Matt: I also really value the pro bono program at Cozen O’Connor because members of our team were able to devote hundreds and hundreds of hours to this case. If not for a firm that’s truly committed to pro bono work, we would not have been able to devote the resources we needed to preparing Ms. S’s application, visiting her in prison multiple times, and ultimately going up to Rochester to get her resentenced. A lot of law firms talk the talk about pro bono work, but Cozen O’Connor has proven itself as a real leader.

We are so grateful to Emily, Matt, and Cozen O’Connor, and thrilled to welcome Ms. S home!


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